When does one find the need to let go or suggest to another person that they must let go of something or someone? It is usually when a circumstance or situation is bound to cause pain, disappointment, sadness or any other emotion that might have a negative impact on us.
It is often challenging to just let go and this is because we tend to relate instances in our lives to some sort of an emotion. The emotions we feel are driven by the nature of the people involved or some past experiences with them, etc. The same applies even to inanimate possessions. Emotions are not only felt but are perceived from others as well and this is the core of human existence and evolution.
Dealing with the loss of somebody we know can affect us to different extents depending on who they are. This is related to memories or experiences with them. If it is somebody very close to us such as a family member or a good friend, the grief over loss is much deeper than when we lose an acquaintance or a co-worker, when it might come as a jolt and cause brief sadness. Letting go of memories and emotions that remind us of the latter is fairly easier than in the case of the former. Different people have different ways of dealing with grief. Our lives might seem to have come to a standstill but the reality is that it must go on, nevertheless. Thus, it’s imperative that we come to terms with such situations.
General ways by which such suffering can be reduced:
- Acknowledgment of the emotions that one is feeling at the loss of somebody they know could be a good release mechanism. The emotions could range from anger to lowered confidence to extreme sadness and disappointment. In some other cases, when the death of a loved one follows immense suffering on the part of the departed, many people feel a sense of relief and peace. Some people like to be alone and connect with themselves in order to come to terms with the occurrence. Sometimes, talking about it with another person helps vocalize thoughts and contributes to the process of moving on. Actions like crying actually reaffirm this acknowledgment effort.
- Channelizing our energy spent on crying and being bitter, towards something more meaningful helps lighten the burden. Some people choose to immerse themselves in social service to spread awareness on their experiences whereas some others find socializing more, meeting new people and engaging themselves in regular routine activities helps them get past this phase.
- Only when faced head on with such a situation do we realize the worth of the one who has passed and also of those who are still alive, and start pondering on the purpose of life and death. With the right kind of support, this propels us to discover and pursue whatever we discern to be our purpose for this life. Thus, it becomes important to surround ourselves with loved ones during this time of grief.
In the recent years, scientific advancements and research have gifted us with the concept of palliative care that is extended to terminally ill patients as well as their families. It is a multidisciplinary approach to providing treatment to such patients and facilitates inclusion of positivity and dignity in their last days. Thus, suffering patients and their loved ones receive support from these centres that specialize in medical procedures that alleviate the